So what are values?
Values are the rules around which we construct our lives. Nobody can make you have particular values they are particular to you and only you as they are the rules by which you choose to live and around which you pursuit your version of success.
Once you know your values, you can build your life’s purpose and goals around them to ensure that when you reach your chosen destination and achieve your goals, you have done it in a way that gives you satisfaction.
We recently attended a morning breakfast organised by All Souls church in London, They called to the front two successful Christians who work in the city and asked them how they lived their faith on a daily basis in the work place. Among the two people was an asset management director who admitted that on numerous occasions, he had to turn down and loose clients (contracts and thus thousands of pounds) only because what the client was asking him to do was against his values.
Another great example of someone who met their goals without having to compromise their values was Muhammad Ali. He refused to participate in the war with Vietnam in 1967 during his first reign as world heavyweight champion. Despite threats from the Government to take his title and throw him to prison, Ali did not give in. Going to war would have been against his values so he preferred loosing his title and was not allowed to fight for 3 years!!!
So here is how you can uncover your values and have a clear idea of what is important to you:
Draw a list of all the people you admire. Then for each of them list all the reasons why you admire them (it could be the love she shows for her children, his hardworking spirit, his generosity, the fun about her, the passion inside of him, excitement, honesty, integrity…) the list goes on and on.
The reason for this is that we cannot see in others what is not already in ourselves.
Others are merely mirrors of ourselves. It could be scary when we criticise and condemn others, well the ugly you see in the other one is also in you or you would not be able to recognise it. Think twice, when you point one finger to someone else, you point 3 back to yourself!!!!
Back to your values, all the attributes you listed for each person you admire are your core values!
This is a great exercise I encourage you to undergo without further a due.
Be inspiration in action and live in the present
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Anyone that knows me from my past, knows that I was shy and lacked self confidence.
I didn’t like speaking in front of people, If any asked me to speak in front of people or gave me a mike I would run a mile.
I remember when I was at university I had to do a presentation in front of my fellow students and lecturer, I was really nervous about doing it. I let fear and anxiety get in the way, I kept thinking negative things all day and about all the things that could go wrong in the presentation.
Well it happened: just as I started to speak I felt beads of sweat running down my face, and felt all hot. The next thing I knew I was on the floor, I had fainted. “Yes the shame of it I passed out”. You are probably laughing, I would laugh too…lol
This one of my biggest secrets which I never told anyone and yes I’m telling you now!
Anyway thing are a lot different now, for the last 3 years God has been certainly building my confidence by reading the word (the Bible I know who I am).
Well this year January 2012 I conquered fear by saying my testimony (overcoming challenges at work when you get promoted and people in your team get jealous and try to set you up for failure) for the first time at Ruach ministries at miracles and healing service in front of about 1,000 people. I said a little prayer before I went up and asked God to take away fear and nerves and let my word come out right and to my amazement it went well. So many people came up to me after the service to say they were really inspired by my testimony and I still get people coming up to me know saying “your testimony was awesome” it help them with the challenges they faced at work too.
What God was showing me was he was talking me out of my comfort zone so I could learn how to take control and make the best out of the situation.
Since August this year, remember the first blog when I mentioned that Paris from Kaleidoscope (recruitment) had asked me to do a workshop for some of her candidates about 15 people?? That was outside my comfort zone!!! I decided to take up the challenge, which Genevieve and I have successfully done, and we will be doing our 3rd workshop on 28th November! whoop whoop!!!
Now I don’t have a problem speaking in front of people.
We also received an email today to do our 4th workshop this time for a major TV Channel (stay tuned!!!).They have invited us to do a workshop for their community journalists and interns we will cover the following points:
Interview dress code
Body language at interviews
Vision and purpose.
We are so excited and we have other contracts in the pipe line again out of our comfort zone but are up for the challenge, our gift is certainly making room for us!!
I just wanted to list a few points on how to take control!!
When you’re faced with something outside of your comfort zone which make you panic, worry and fear sets in, look in the mirror and start to speak to yourself and this is what you say!!!
“God did not give me the spirit of fear but of power and love and a sound mind” 2 Timothy 1;7
Tell yourself you are capable of doing it remember, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. Philippians 4;13
Tell fear stress and anxiety “I am more than a conquer”. Romans 8:37
Also take time to imagine the situation going really well, feel good about it get excited, “yes that’s right get excited before it even happens. That’s what we did. Know that everything will go well because God is in control.
Now get out there and own it!! seriously you have to tell yourself that you own it, decree and declare it and it shall be established.
You’re going to be amazing at it, these are the steps we took, all thing are possible to them that believe..
Start taking control of your thoughts….
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