Life is constantly changing and change is the only CONSTANT! Fashion changes every few weeks, our body shapes do so over the years, we put on or loose weight not to mention the pregnancies.
In the same way, our personalities can evolve and our lifestyle can take a major U turn for a whole lot of different reasons. When that happens, we need to make sure that we adapt to those changes and remain able to still project who we are in the way we dress.
For the majority of women, this permanent need to adapt can be overwhelming and that is when the dreaded “Style Rut” happens.
A Style Rut can happen at any age, and it is simply when you get stuck in one way of thinking or dressing, without adapting to the changes that have taken places in your life and around you. When that happens, instead of feeling depressed, see this as an opportunity to update and upgrade, embrace the opportunity to make some exciting changes!
There are commonly two types of Style Ruts:
You are scared to try new styles or you are just too busy to think about trying something new. You just stick in your comfort “Style” zone and grab what you know works for you and saves you time. You find yourself wearing the same old over and over and guess what is your favorite color? Black of course! You keep buying the same clothes, you feel uninspired, bored and usually your wardrobe is filled with clothes but you have nothing to wear. Sounds familiar?
You feel like you have left your fashion sense behind. You are stuck (maybe emotionally) in a certain stage of your life. This happens a lot after having babies, our bodies change, we feel more of a woman but we are still dressing like in our 20’s.
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The suit is the single most important garment worn by men; not only because it is the most expensive and requires the greatest amount of time for selection and fitting, but because it is the garment on which most people judge the wearer’s status, character and abilities.
And since it covers the upper torso, which is the focal point of most people with whom we communicate, it is the central power garment, the one garment that establishes our position as inferior, equal or superior in any in-person business situation. In this case the equality policy just does not work. You are wearing a suit or you do not! And if you are against a person who is wearing a suit and you do not, guess who will win the case, the sale, the woman? (OK just kidding for the last one).
Suits are positive authority symbols, worn by the upper middle class, the people who make important decisions in our society. Parliament, White House, Elysee Palace…We are much more likely to believe, respect and obey the man who wears a suit than the man who does not. Men who do not wear suit may have important functions in our society, but we do not normally accord them such in our minds. In any level of society, suits are associated with authority, with position, with power.
Style Coach for Unique Image London
The subject of this blog came to me as I was preparing my workshop on Self esteem and Confidence.
It might sound a bit technical but bare with me.
You see, we all have a conscious and unconscious mind, the conscious mind for the thinking we do on a daily basis and that internal voice we identify to as “me” or “I”. But it is very limited in what it can handle and store at any given time. On the other hand, our unconscious mind is our memories, wisdom, creativity storage. And most importantly for my subject, it stores all of our habits.
Now tell me, when you wake up in the morning, do you spend half an hour wondering about what you are going to have for breakfast? On a daily basis, you just grab the same thing; it could be coffee or tea, home based or at your workplace. You will probably take the same route to work, grab the same news paper and listen to the same radio station.
We cook, eat, tie our shoelaces and ties, comb our hair pretty much in the same way and most importantly dress in the same manner everyday ( I am not saying wearing the same clothes though). Before you know it, repeating the same tasks on a daily basis develops habits which become unconscious and get stored in our unconscious mind so that when we do it, we do not even think about it anymore.
“There, a Style Rut is born”
Some of us do not even realise that we are in a style rut. It will take a friend, I mean a true friend, a family member or even hubby to tell us well ” honey, you need to do something” for us to realise it and become conscious a bout it. And I know it has some comfort to it and it feels safe because there is no risk taken.
The bad news is that a style rut can spread over the other areas of your life becoming slowly but surely a “Lifestyle rut”.
So my word of encouragement: take the risk to make your style unordinary by doing things differently every now and then. Cut your hair, change your lipstick colour, inject some colour in your wardrobe. Wear a skirt for a change!!!! Do not tell me you do not look good in a skirt; there is a skirt for every shape out there.
What needs to happen now is a deprogramming of the old habit in order to effectively replace it with a new one. You cannot install an antivirus if you have one already installed on your computer. It will ask you to get rid of the other one, well same here!!
If however, you not have clue how to do that, where to start… well, yours truly Style Coach Genevieve Muwana and Sandra Clothes (yes pun intended and there is a story behind this nickname but that is another blog) are here for you.
Together, we will built a program of change that will take you step by step and very gently towards creating your Unique Image!
Until then, be a living inspiration and live in the present
It was love at first sight!!!
When I saw this pair of Sam Edelman in the press, I knew they were mine, and now they are!!
Shoes are a girl’s best friend!