The subject of this blog came to me as I was preparing my workshop on Self esteem and Confidence.
It might sound a bit technical but bare with me.
You see, we all have a conscious and unconscious mind, the conscious mind for the thinking we do on a daily basis and that internal voice we identify to as “me” or “I”. But it is very limited in what it can handle and store at any given time. On the other hand, our unconscious mind is our memories, wisdom, creativity storage. And most importantly for my subject, it stores all of our habits.
Now tell me, when you wake up in the morning, do you spend half an hour wondering about what you are going to have for breakfast? On a daily basis, you just grab the same thing; it could be coffee or tea, home based or at your workplace. You will probably take the same route to work, grab the same news paper and listen to the same radio station.
We cook, eat, tie our shoelaces and ties, comb our hair pretty much in the same way and most importantly dress in the same manner everyday ( I am not saying wearing the same clothes though). Before you know it, repeating the same tasks on a daily basis develops habits which become unconscious and get stored in our unconscious mind so that when we do it, we do not even think about it anymore.
“There, a Style Rut is born”
Some of us do not even realise that we are in a style rut. It will take a friend, I mean a true friend, a family member or even hubby to tell us well ” honey, you need to do something” for us to realise it and become conscious a bout it. And I know it has some comfort to it and it feels safe because there is no risk taken.
The bad news is that a style rut can spread over the other areas of your life becoming slowly but surely a “Lifestyle rut”.
So my word of encouragement: take the risk to make your style unordinary by doing things differently every now and then. Cut your hair, change your lipstick colour, inject some colour in your wardrobe. Wear a skirt for a change!!!! Do not tell me you do not look good in a skirt; there is a skirt for every shape out there.
What needs to happen now is a deprogramming of the old habit in order to effectively replace it with a new one. You cannot install an antivirus if you have one already installed on your computer. It will ask you to get rid of the other one, well same here!!
If however, you not have clue how to do that, where to start… well, yours truly Style Coach Genevieve Muwana and Sandra Clothes (yes pun intended and there is a story behind this nickname but that is another blog) are here for you.
Together, we will built a program of change that will take you step by step and very gently towards creating your Unique Image!
Until then, be a living inspiration and live in the present